Love Letter To Breakup
Dearest Annu,
You haven’t blogged much over the last two years—I understand why. You lived a reality that should only exist on screen and fiction.
Not real life.
Not your life.
Not anyone’s life.
April 2023:
The rug pulled from under your feet.
The roof stripped from your head.
The walls shattered from a deafening collapse.
Your family, home and life crumbled. You looked back one last time at the nest you’d built—now ashes. The empty house was still standing. Nothing had changed on the outside. Everything had shattered within.
A mirage… all a mirage. A facade. Gone up in smoke.
And YOU escaped alive.
With the support of two incredible sons, family, friends and professionals, you ploughed a path to ‘Discovery’ and realization. You discovered enough evidence to validate that nothing in your life over the last three decades was real except for your two sons. You unraveled 30 years over 10 months. Every blink washed away one deception. One more betrayal. No wonder you were so exhausted. Determination to unearth the extent of life’s reality fueled a fire to fight back.
You continued to pray. God sent his angels in the form of core and close family, friends, authors, professionals and a phenomenal Domestic Violence Advocate, Pam Stack, who taught you to take the narcissistic-psychopath by the horns, confront and battle the horrors.
Devastating horrors no woman should ever endure.
Then God handpicked another angel. Attorney, Damon Bivek. Damon replaced your pen with a sword, sheets of paper with a shield and examined all the proofs, akin to artillery, you loaded in weapons. Damon amplified your roar in the ‘Art of War’. He taught you to aim, pull the trigger and NOT fire.
“Because true strength,” he said, “evolves in silent strategy.”
The narc’s walls collapsed.
The roof stripped from the narc’s head.
The rug pulled from below the narc’s feet.
You looked back one last time at the life you’d built—burning to ashes. The narc-psych, was still standing. Nothing changed on the outside. His mask cracked. Splintered. Then exploded.
He shattered within.
Burned.
And YOU escaped alive.
With a strength, patience and perseverance you never knew you possessed, you conquered this narc-psych-demon and crushed till it cowered and whimpered back to the hole from where it had emerged 30 years ago—a snake devoid of its rattle.
Damon, attorney-knight-in-armor, introduced you to a new career, lit your path like a North Star, and you followed.
August 2023:
Five months ago, Life Coach Veena Dhandia, an older and wise sister-angel in Mumbai, India—also a certified life healer who has been working with you since you left the ‘nest-that-never-existed’—taught you how to rise, put one foot ahead of the other and walk. Then run…
She suggested I write a break-up letter to let go of the past and heal so I could move on.
Here I am writing to erase the fog of 30 years. To break away from the past.
Annu,
You and I have been talking since, but I don’t know how to let go because
You are my past.
I am your future.
I am You.
You are me.
A brave-heart lion and a golden dragon we gave birth to and raised together with pride… They are now fine young men with their own journey to healing and success ahead. The only true reality of the 30 years between us—our two golden boys.
Everything else—a mirage. All a mirage. A facade. Gone up in smoke.
But We made it out.
Alive.
You and I.
January 2025:
Grab my hand, Annu.
Take a leap of faith across the bridge of time.
Don’t look back. There’s nothing to return to. No ashes.
Think… How can we burn what didn’t exist in the first place?
A mirage… all a mirage. A facade. Gone up in smoke.
Now WE, survivors. Thrivers. We will use our experiences, skills and lessons learned to move on to the next chapter in our life. And build a new future. WE must continue to clear the fog for others to see a path forward.
We must forge ahead to serve others in jeopardy through literature
And now the legal system.
Annu,
Hold strong. Hold close your two dragon-bravehearts.
Your golden sons.
A new chapter,
The next book to self-empowerment is about to start…
Lots of Love
Anju
XOXOXOXOX
Please share your thoughts in the ‘Comments Box’ below… every ounce of courage gives strength!
10 Comments
Eren
So proud of you Anju. I admire your courage, resilience, patience, and strength. You are a great example of what it takes to get out and move forward.
Your words are calming and inspiring. I am lucky to have met you. ?
Anju Gattani
Hi Eren,
Thank you for your words of strength and courage. I hope the stark reality of my and my son’s lives will help others to find a path to their own healing and forward movement in life. I’m so lucky to know you… thanks for being my inspiration to never give up whether Hell or Fire… Our Motto: “Hell NO!”
Stacie
Anju, your writing gripped me from the start. I felt like I was listening to music. Your words were only sad for a moment because the sound of triumph and survival rang throughout. Poetic Justice. Brava! to your journey of survival and the beautiful art it has produced.
Anju Gattani
Hi Stacie,
Thank you for stopping to read my little blog which opened up a house of horrors to a past I am determined to put behind. Triumph and the will to survive comes from having wonderful people to look up to as role models. I continue to survive, breathe, write and now hope to help myself, my sons and others move forward in their own journey.
Lalita Daga
Hi Annu. Your post is deeper than a break up letter. I feel it’s like a summary of your new book. You are an excellent writer. Your writing is very clear and transparent. Love you Annu. Keep it up.
Anju Gattani
Thanks Mom.
Your words give me the courage to go on and not look back. There are so many times when I do look back–I can’t believe what happened and how life has fallen apart for me and my sons and the horrific countless levels of lies, betrayal and deceit. The pain cuts deep but healing is the only path forward. Thank you for holding my hand and never letting go…
Al Ortiz
Very impressive, my understanding of this is that you masterfully capture the bittersweet essence of letting go, transforming heartbreak into a poignant reflection on personal growth and healing. You beautifully portray how breakups, often seen as painful endings, can also mark the beginning of self-discovery and empowerment. With poetic sincerity, you invite readers to embrace the vulnerability that comes with love lost, recognizing that it’s through these experiences that we ultimately find strength, resilience, and a deeper understanding of our true selves. This piece resonates as both a cathartic release and a celebration of newfound freedom.
Al Ortiz
Anju Gattani
Thank you, Al.
The devastating episode continues to test and push boundaries I could never have imagined cutting across. Truly appreciate your generous words, thoughts and courage to continue on this path to healing.
Lauren D Smith
Such an incredible, inspiring post. I am so glad you are so strong!
Anju Gattani
Thank you, Lauren.
And thank you for always being a source of friendship, strength and courage – so grateful to have you in my life forever!!